letter writing, hate religion

Dear Friend,

I wanted to write you a letter, you who hate religion, you who think the Christians are responsible for so much hatred in the world, you who is tired of hearing about Jesus from people who don’t seem to even know him. You, who wants nothing to do with this organized religion called Christianity which you suspect is just a code word for hypocrite.

You, shaking your fists watching televangelists tell hurricane and earthquake victims that the gays are responsible for God’s wrath. You, whose stomach turned when you drove past the street corner where the guy with the bullhorn and the poster board condemned passersby straight to the fires of hell. You, who rolls your eyes when your friend posts another Bible verse to your Facebook news feed. You, who is angry that your personal life and your future are threatened by people who don’t know you and don’t understand you and don’t even want to.

You wonder if God is so good and so powerful, and if He helped that team win the football game, then why doesn’t He do something about all those starving children or rape victims. You wonder what all the mega-churches full of believers could accomplish in the world, together, if they acted on the principles they preach instead of holding another Bible study or spiritual retreat. You wonder what the world would be like if there really was a movement of the love and grace Jesus taught about and if faith was more than a buzz word.

You are so sick of hearing from the Christians because after all these years you only seem to hear about what they’re against… politically, relationally, religiously, and morally. Because faith, hope, and love doesn’t seem to go any farther or any deeper than the cute little sign on their wall that holds the words. Because the only thing in your life they seem to care about is your sin. Because deep down you believe that if Jesus really does come back to this planet, he’ll be horrified about much of what is being done in His name and by those who claim that He is their God while they worship power and money.

I wanted to tell you…

You’re right.

It was never meant to be this way.

Jesus gives us a life of freedom, a freedom we Christians so often use to hold others captive. Jesus gives us infinite grace, a gift we maim and distort into judgment and condemnation. Jesus taught us to live a life of love, an instruction we’ve misunderstood and mismanaged and turned into a method of self-service.

I’m sorry.

I’m sorry for the Christians who have judged you and condemned you and cared only about your sin instead of extending grace and understanding and a hand of fellowship. I’m sorry that following Jesus has so often become a pursuit of religion and favor and that we have failed to do what our namesake requires of us, and act, always, in love.

Because we are the answer for the starving children and the rape victims, the solution God gave to a hurting world…His people. We are the hands to apply balm to the hurting bodies and hurting hearts. We have been given the kind of transcendent love that allows us to carry out supernatural miracles in the power of the Spirit.

But we don’t.

We fiddle with our iPhones and get bent up about politics and pray for vacations and sports victories. We imagine Jesus in our own image, with blue eyes and blue jeans, in a rage against all the things we hate. We play at church and turn it into a social club for the in-crowd, far removed from marginalized society, tithing for the benefit of flavored coffee and softer chairs while we look at the photos of the starving and the sick and the addicted and the lost and we say it, again and again…

“How sad.”

We are, so often, a poor representation of Jesus.

We fail at all those things we’re supposed to be. We’re selfish and overwhelmed by the needs of the world and scared of what we don’t understand, so we waltz around and through our days like we don’t know the answers, like there’s nothing we can do, like we don’t have hope, and like we don’t really care about those neighbors we’re supposed to love like ourselves.

He isn’t like us.

We’re fallen and broken and making a mess of things. We’re sinful and selfish and so off-track. We’re human, and even when we try our hardest to emulate Him, to be Him in a hurting world, we miss the mark and get tangled up in our humanity, in our very nature as not-gods. We have let you down. He won’t. He isn’t like us.

I’m sorry.

It was never meant to be this way.

Cara Sexton

A wife, mom, foster parent, writer, and Jesus girl, trying to live out loud with as much grace and gusto as I can. Visit me at WhimsySmitten.com

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  • Jody Collins

    Cara–it’s taken me a week to get to this post and a few hours to digest it to know how to respond. I see your point–can’t we all (believers/Christians) just act saved? Yes, that would be nice. We all need to improve on the PR Campaign for Jesus. The responses you’ve received from people who call themselves atheists have been interesting and you’re brave to initiate the conversation.
    But here are a few points: 1) As John Piper has said–”God is most glorified when we are most satisfied in Him.” (Jonathan Edwards said it first). If we say we are a follower of Christ we should be living like that–is my life showing the joy that I have in following Him? Does Jesus really meet all my needs? or do I need a new car and weekly shopping trips and a new iPad and, and, and….THOSE are some of the things Christians need to work on, the flesh versus the Spirit battle we engage in daily.
    2) I think we need to be careful; Jesus did not die for a ‘Love Wins’ gospel. Your lines, “Jesus taught us to live a life of love, an instruction we’ve misunderstood and mismanaged and turned into a method of self-service….we are the answer for the starving children and the rape victims, the solution God gave to a hurting world…His people. We are the hands to apply balm to the hurting bodies and hurting hearts. We have been given the kind of transcendent love that allows us to carry out supernatural miracles in the power of the Spirit,” are all true, but they are not the whole truth.
    Jesus died in my place to set me free from sin. Repentance, transformation, sanctification, holiness……….those are repeated throughout the New Testament, that we might glorify Jesus here on Earth.
    It is really far easier to sign up for a mission trip or go to a soup kitchen or lead an inner city Bible Study than to let the Holy Spirit do the hard, invisible work of taming our tongues or harnessing our pride. Those are the struggles I need help with. Holiness looks like something– It looks like me keeping my mouth shut at work when I want to be sarcastic. It looks like me letting the lady in front of me at the grocery store go first ’cause she’s got 3 kids with her, it looks like me walking in forgiveness daily with my saviour and my spouse as I (again) interrupt him, disrespect him (my own shortcomings).
    I’m committed to spearheading and supporting the ministries that are helping women reclaim their lives from abuse and sex trafficking. I want to do all I can–send money, go and give and pray, write about these causes, whatever God works out as I move forward with Him.
    But Jesus didn’t spend an entire day on the cross bleeding for me so that I could be nice and helpful and just do good works and be kind, throwing the word grace around. As Bonhoeffer said, “His grace isn’t cheap (but it’s free).”
    I can’t leave out the dying to myself part. There is a daily surrender. When Jesus said the kingdom of Heaven suffers violence and the violent take it by force He implied there would be a cost involved. It is not an easy road, it is a tough, pot-holed highway we walk with a Saviour who supports and delivers us in our shortcomings. That is what glorifies Jesus and makes Him look good to a dying world.
    There are hundreds of people in many churches (evangelical/spirit-filled whatever you want to call them) that I know of personally where this is happening. Hard truths are preached, people are walking them out and lives are being changed.
    I agree with (I can’t remember, several comments ago) who encouraged you to do a follow up post on the places where believers are ‘making Jesus look good.’ Our church members and other congregations I’m aware of around the country would be on that list. I’d be happy to share with you who they are.
    Again, good job on this thought-provoking, insightful post.

  • http://www.facebook.com/dayna.brohm Dayna Brohm

    This is so very true! I love it, keep on writing… My Husband wrote a letter to our church when they were trying hard to start a building fund. It was titled Close the Building, build the Church. Of course that didn’t go over too well with those on the building committee, and those that wanted bigger and better. But this letter you wrote reminds me so much on why we are here. To reach the lost, and it doesn’t happen through religion, it happens with personal relationships and only through the holy spirit are we able to share true love. Jesus came to show his Love on that Cross… To walk with the sinner’s… That is what we are called to do as well. Carry on, and may God Bless you in your daily walk.

  • God Favorite-Jen

    This is well written! I do want to say that not all Christians are like that. There are those who walk in divine love and God’s presence. Just because someone says they are a christian doesn’t mean they are. The Bible says we can know them by their fruit-love,joy,patience,kindness,gentleness,faithfulness,self control,goodness, and peace. I am sorry to everyone who has ever been turned off from God by well meaning (or not) people in His name. Not all Christians are hypocritical :)
    Also, it is NOT God’s wrath when there are hurricanes/tornadoes/etc. God judged sin on the Cross and Jesus said “It is finished” No more wrath, no more judgment (until the final judgment from the resurrection) The Bible clearly says the devil is the god of this world, and is the prince of the powers of the air, the 3rd heaven. All these devastating things are from him, not God!!
    Also let me add-I hate religion too-and so does God! Religion is just a set of rules that men make. God’s answer to that is JESUS-God just wants a relationship with us! Jesus was perfect so we don’t have to be! However, he gives us the power through the Holy Spirit to live free from sin and bondage! :)

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  • Ashcan

    I’m glad I’m not alone in this thinking. We waist our time with the same programs and styles of worship. We talk about prayer, yet don’t do anything. I’d love to see this change.